Love is as beautiful as it is complicated. It can fill stomachs with butterflies and minds with tangles.
However, there are many different types of love and love ties. Furthermore, it must be said that it cannot be determined that one is better than another. Well, they are only the same people who are members of the relationship who will be able to say in the first person how they experience this love.
Womanizing men are considered seductive men who have a high number of relationships with women, usually informal relationships. In this Psychology-Online article, we want to resolve a frequent question: if womanizing men can change if they truly fall in love.
Can a womanizer man fall in love according to psychology?
According to the experts, the way of acting of the womanizer man can have its beginnings in a series of psychological conflicts such as:
- Having suffered love disappointments
- Has a panic of commitment
However, this does not indicate that these people are incapable of falling in love, but rather that they have difficulties in understanding their own emotions. Men with these characteristics fall more in love with the sensation they experience during the times of flirting and falling in love than with the person itself. But this does not mean that they cannot establish an affective bond with other people.
How to win a womanizing man
Taking into account that we cannot change people, we can relate in a healthy and honest way to establish good bonds. Here are some guidelines to win over a womanizing man:
- Don’t lose hope. You have to always keep your feet on the ground and not live in a cloud. However, almost all people as they mature feel the need to have a more stable life.
- Be yourself. One of the advantages that womanizers play with is experienced, and we do not mean in more private areas, but in knowing if a person acts by pretending or on the contrary they are authentic.
- Find the balance between listening and speaking. Womanizing men are very used to superficial and banal talks from which they get no emotional satisfaction. So by exchanging ideas and thoughts with him, can help you develop an emotional connection. Of course, not only tell him about yourself, let him also speak, otherwise this link will never develop.
- Show confidence. If at any point the man begins to show a lack of interest in you, do not appear insecure and in need of his attention. Show him that you are a person who loves himself. This will inadvertently make your interest spike again.
- Smile and have a sense of humor. Being able to laugh out loud with a person is one of the best feelings there is. It manages to create bonds of complicity between two people. So, if you make him experience this feeling with you, you will make him not want to leave your side.
- Limit your communication with him. The womanizing man is easily bored and overwhelmed so if you always find yourself calling and texting him it would not be surprising if he started to walk away. Show him that you are independent too and that your life does not revolve around him.
- You don’t want to control it. If you are a person who is afraid of commitment and who is used to superficial relationships, you can easily become overwhelmed. If you try to control what he does, the only thing you will get him to run away.
- Define your priorities. Before acting in any way, it is important that you clear your mind in order to make decisions with confidence and firmness.
Does a womanizing man change for love?
The personality of a womanizer man can be complex. They are extremely calculating, persistent, and charming. In your need is to control every little detail of the relationships you create. Your mind resists the idea of commitment and possible abandonment later. It is considered that being a womanizer is based on a disorder in affective bonds during development, which prevents you from creating the bond of love in adulthood.
These men base relationships on the continuous search for self-pleasure. For this same reason, changing the behavior of the womanizing man is very complicated since they are used to, selfishly, meeting all their needs.
They are usually very comfortable in the situation and tend to reasonably justify all their actions so that they do not consider that any of their behavior is wrong.
According to Dr. Dougla Romero, a womanizer will not change until he reaches old age, at which time he is already tired of living in constant conflict with his multiple partners or at which time he will no longer have the physical characteristics necessary to attract new partners.
Therefore, if after your attempt to conquer a womanizer, you see that he shows no sign of change in terms of his attitude, do not hesitate to walk away from him, because we must never allow anyone to play with our hearts.
It should be noted that the problem is not in having informal, temporary or superficial relationships, but in cheating with expectations of a serious relationship when it is not. That is, the problem is that sometimes womanizing men lie about their intentions to get what they want. In which case it is important to spot it and walk away.
In the following article, you will find more information about What to do when a man does not want anything serious.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.